Situations Perpetuating Low Self-Esteem
And What to Do About It!
Someone sent this to me many years ago and I don’t know the author. Perhaps someone can let me know who it is. I have added it here because you will probably relate to at least one of these situations, if not many! It is clear, precise and to the point. I hope this makes a difference even to just one of you.
SITUATIONS THAT PERPETUATE LOW SELF-ESTEEM
1. Not accepting responsibility for your own growth and wellbeing
2. Lack of clear-cut and meaningful goals to guide your decisions and reduce time - aimlessly drifting
3. Not doing your own thinking and making your own decisions. Requires the permission, confirmation and agreement of others for what you think, say and do.
4. Neglecting and ignoring your own needs in order to ’serve others’, not recognizing your own growth as your number one responsibility.
5. Being a ‘professional people pleaser’.
6. Having to work at an occupation you heartily dislike, especially one that is not meaningful for you.
7. Setting yourself too high a standard to reach, and therefore constantly finding fault with yourself for not maintaining it.
8. Belittling yourself for mistakes and failures, indulging in destructive self-criticism.
9. Depending on others for a sense of importance rather than realizing that everyone is of equal worth and importance.
10. Not allowing yourself the right of full expression, not developing your own talents and capabilities.
11. Giving up before a job is finished and never getting the satisfaction of completion.
12. Comparing yourself with others as a gage of your individual worth and importance. Believing you must prove your worth through superior importance.
13. Not speaking up for your own conviction, letting others ignore and belittle you.
14. Refusing to recognize your good characteristics, and therefore building up a negative picture of yourself that are unrealistic.
15. Not recognizing your own needs for sleep, relaxation, satisfying work, companionship, good diet - not taking care of yourself.
16. Not letting others do things for you - not believing that they might want to.
TEN STEPS TO SELF ESTEEM
STEP ONE
In order to achieve any result you want - you have to ACKNOWLEDGE and RELEASE the past.
CYCLES OF COMPLETION:
i) Decide to ACKNOWLEDGE and RELEASE the past
ii) Plan………….
iii) Start…………
iv) Continue…..
v) Finish……….
vi) Complete - acknowledge that it’s over.
STEP TWO
Identify, acknowledge and affirm your strengths.
STEP THREE
Clarify your vision and your values.
STEP FOUR
Set goals and objectives.
STEP FIVE
Affirm and visualise your success.
STEP SIX
You have to take ACTION. In order to GET, you have to ASK.
STEP SEVEN
Respond to feedback. (You’re going to be off course more than you’re on course!)
STEP EIGHT
Perseverance. Keep going, no matter what.
STEP NINE
Reap the rewards. Let yourself enjoy it.
Have the attitude of gratitude.
AUTHOR: Anon
