Why men fail with women and attraction

There are many reasons why men are failing with women and
dating today but I'd like to look at it from an angle that you may
not have thought about before.

When it comes to the game of attraction, many men will start
becoming needy, clingy, overwhelmed, etc. this means they're
giving up their OWN personal independence (during that time
because it all that she sees and knows about him) and showing
signs of dependency on a woman.

When your emotions start to take over you have to understand
where they are coming from and where they fit into the reality
of things. Many men fail because they just can't control their
thoughts and physiological response to a beautiful woman.

Just because you're interested in her doesn't mean she's interested
in you.

Women are world class body language readers (they were born
to know what to look for and how to respond) and can see any
sign of nervousness when you are around them.

Any uncontrollable emotional response you have with women
upfront (or later on in the relationship when you only see her
'wonderful' side and 'fall for her') means that you are losing
your own power, strength and independence (already confused
and muddled because of growing up being hidden from the truth).

When this happens it means that she CANNOT be attracted to you.
So all the nice guys out there that try to put their ‘best’ foot
forward (and not really being their true self) are really failing
and stepping on their own feet. They’re not being honest with
themselves and their intentions.

Not to mention that many women today don’t want to be courted
and feeling like they owe this guy a committed relationship, they
want to be free and let things happen more naturally.

Many guys get so nervous and self-conscious around the women
they desire that they don't realize there's nothing they could say
to salvage it.

She already lost interest the second she saw him yet they’ll still
try to learn pick-up lines in a desperate attempt to succeed to the
point their devotion to it becomes unnatural.

All men were born with the inherent power to please women.
And it's all done on a natural level that’s really more important
to her than money (except gold-diggers). And she has to be
able to trust the man to BE a man.

Women are waiting for the 'real men' (who respect her and her
body without saying a word) because there are so few left
anymore.

Just have to get in touch with your natural power as a man
to reach the natural part of (all) women.

This power is greater than your own independent 'personality'
or your social character and it's the power that matters when
it comes to succeeding with women and giving women what they
want.

Become a man who is 'comfortable in his own skin' and maintain
that congruency and you'll find that women will treat you differently
and actually notice you.

Her interest means everything because she is the one who chooses
you or not (as a response to your character or approach) but as a
man you will lead the way.

The nice guy will 'fail' in attracting women because he's not
inspiring an instinctual or natural response in her to him.

Is it his fault for growing up in a forced reality which
covers up his real power and effectiveness? No.

Does he have to take accountability for his actions and
future? Yes. Understanding these things will allow him
to move forward into a whole level of success that he
has only dreamed of.

I like to see things this way:

You can't go with a fat, ugly chick just as much as she can't
go with a man of low character.

Women today love sex just as much as men but they expect a guy
they can trust first and if you're showing signs of dependency
or that you're too interested in her and would change your ways
to be with her, it ain't going to work out.

The good news is that women will KNOW when you are that man
they want.

To prevent failure, just become a man of high character across
the 3 areas that matter (natural, independent and social) and
you will have women wanting to be with you and not giving up
the chance to meet you.

The whole game turns around at that point and other guys will
continue to fail because they didn't understand the big game
of attraction and how to apply it themselves to be more
naturally themselves.

Be what women want by truly becoming the man you were supposed
to be instead of having to trick them into something and you'll
be able to attract women nonverbally.

All men have this power and potential despite their money or
looks. It's all about how she feels when she's around you
and that ALL comes down to your character and who you are.

So I recommend to prevent failure and have success with
women and dating!

Article Source: http://www.selfhelptips.com/index.php

Rion Williams is the celebrated author of 'Mens Guide to Women' and is the first person to quantify and put in writing 'what women want'. His free newsletter and downloadable attraction philosophy eBook can be found at www.modelmagnet.com

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